I get the gym membership thing. For 4-5 years, my husband and I used to be dedicated 5am gym goers until my first born got close to 2 years old and we could no longer slide a sleeping babe into the car seat while my husband and I took turns working out while the other stayed in the car with hot coffee and a good book. Around 2 years old, she started waking up in the car and it was not relaxing or fun anymore.
The gym had been the one thing that my husband and I did together. We kept each other motivated on mornings that were cold, rainy, and even weekends. We loved going to the local YMCA. It was a small community and we loved our routine.
To me, this was of self-care. I was doing something for myself that felt good, boosted my health, my mood, and strengthened my relationship. Feeling good was reflected in my thoughts and self-talk. My relationship moved into marriage and starting a family. It was a wonderful part of my life. But life happens….
When we couldn’t make it to gym anymore, we bought a treadmill for the house and we rocked that for almost a year. I stopped running 28 weeks into my 2nd pregnancy. I was just too tired with all of the life changes coming in rapid succession; house hunting, making an offer on a new house, nesting, showing our home to prospective buyers, preparing for open houses, my first born starting preschool, having a second baby. Boy has it been busy! Now that we are settled in our new house, I have realized how much I have neglected myself physically.
I started blogging again in early spring, which is one piece of self-care. It’s something I have and do for myself, which is wonderful and provides a great outlet and community of mothers, fellow parents, writers, and inspiration. I also started going to bed with my kids so that I can get some reading done once the girls are asleep. That is self-care too, doing something that I enjoy helps me relax. I have already read 12 books this year.
Despite these efforts at self-care, I am still missing two key elements: the physical and spiritual. I miss workouts. To me, working out can be similar to meditation or being in the “zone”, but my body is different with age and babies and although I don’t particularly love it, I crave Yoga. I feel deeply (in an intuitive, non-sensical way) that Yoga is the KEY to my fitness and stress reduction, so I am planning a program to implement this into my daily life. The trick will be to find the optimal time to make it a habit. I am not sure the early mornings will work since I am often nursing through-out the night.
Spirituality is trickier for me. Sometimes I break out the Bible and read a bit. Sometimes I watch YouTube clips of Joyce Meyers. Sometimes I think I need meditation or a gratitude journal. Long hikes, self reflection in the outdoors brings me peace. Whatever it is, I am needing the spiritual component too! I am just not sure where to start or which “thing” to implement or if I should try variety of things. Maybe meditate for a month, then journal for a month, then visit our local church, read more spiritual based books, …I am not sure.
What do you do? How do you feed your Physical and Spiritual health? How do you fit it into your family life?