Self-Care and Why Parents Need It the Most

If you are a parent, be it biological, step, foster or other, then you are a care taker. You are a person who has the responsibility of teaching, protecting and nurturing a child or children. Maybe you are also balancing a full time job, career, volunteerism, care for aging parents or other family members. Few of us are free to stay at home and focus on the house and family. If you are lucky enough to be doing that, I am sure you too understand the need for time to yourself. We all need time to care for ourselves. With so much to do all the time; schedules to keep track of, school calendars, extra curricular activities, dentist appointments, sick days, work, spring break, grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning, walking the dog, and on and on and on. Our lives can become very busy.

Some days I have literally found myself leaving for work in my slippers!!! Yes, my fuzzy, brown slippers!! Why? Because I was so busy making sure the baby had a clean diaper, the pre-schooler had her backpack and jacket, and that I didn’t forget my lunch or my nursing pump. But…there I am, without proper footwear for work.

Or those nights when I get dinner made, dishes done, prepped for the next day, folded the laundry, did bed time routines, nursed my infant to sleep and went to bed without brushing my own teeth. It’s true. I am the last person on my list to take care of and the result of this is not very positive.

Apart from poor oral hygiene on occasion, it’s my attitude and fortitude that suffer. And probably my husband too because I tend to blame him for things. My attitude becomes critical and judgmental. I forget how to relax. I get rigid when anyone touches me. I am short tempered. Looking at how taking care of everyone but myself affects me, it’s glaring that not one positive thing is happening.

Yet, those glorious nights when the kids seem to fall asleep fast and it’s only 8:30 and a Saturday night so you don’t have to get up for work the next day!!! Oooooh the feeling of sheer relief and happiness that I am an independent woman without a child tethered to me for a few hours. Far and few between, but the rejuvenation I feel after a few hours of alone time, that’s what we ALL need.

Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s the kindest gift we can give ourselves. The recognition that we matter and that we can’t be our best selves without it. Maybe it’s once a week or every day, we should strive to give ourselves a little extra time.

How do you do your self-care? How do you find the time?

Good Article for more reading on why self-care is important: In defense of  Parent’s day off 

 

 

16 thoughts on “Self-Care and Why Parents Need It the Most

  1. Lana Cole says:

    I love this post. I also tend to take things out on my husband on occasion. Life is really hard sometimes, like you mentioned, meals, laundry, bedtimes, work… I am running on fumes by dinner time most days..💗

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  2. momlifewithchiari says:

    A mother isn’t selfish in wanting to care for herself or to think about herself. It’s a mental change that mothers or parents in general need to make. It all starts with us. I had heard of this version of the quote, ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup.’ I love them both because their absolutely true. I can’t give my best if I myself have nothing left to give. Yes, my husband gets the short end of the stick. Eek! Have to work on that too. Great post! 💛😊

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  3. Kelli says:

    I have been thinking a lot on this topic lately. My self-care involves yoga and exercise. When I can get a yoga session in my day is much calmer, and I feel like I can face the craziness better. I am guilty of taking things out on my husband, and last week was particularly bad. I decided after that outbreak I NEED to do something to alleviate the stress. So I’ve been waking up and doing 15-30 minute yoga sessions each morning before getting ready for work! I’m on day #7! And I feel so much better already.

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    • mrsmotherdirt says:

      Kelli, that’s awesome! 🙂 When I start blaming my husband for not meeting my needs, it’s usually the cue that I need to take a time out. Getting up and doing yoga first thing is wonderful and that’s what I am hoping to do too. It’s great to fit it in anytime, but there is nothing else like starting off your day fresh and centered.

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